Record numbers of working people say they're more dissatisfied than five years ago. Millions more are wondering "how did this happen to me?" Or "why did I buy into company dogma, management's crap, or working 5-7 days a week 24/7?" It doesn't make sense doesn't anymore.

Most of us have been influenced by one of the two biggest myths kept alive through articles, families and well-meaning friends, and they're ingrained in the American psyche. They've infected our culture on how we overwork, measure ourselves, and define our success. Reconsider their legitimacy - they're not completely true.

Myth #1: Your business success will transform you and help you attract the love of your life and a fabulous personal life full of great friends.

Real Deal: What it takes to have business success usually requires burying real feelings and your emotions. Paradoxically, feelings and emotions are necessary for a satisfying life and great relationships. Have you met many workaholics with terrific marriages or great people skills?

Myth #2: Business success banishes the blues; guarantees high esteem and finances so your blue days will be over; reserved only for losers or low salary earners.

Real Deal: Often, single mindedness towards business success contributes to isolation and emptiness. The blues always return sending you seeking a prescription for mood altering drugs to end the pain.

What now? Work is only ONE aspect of your life. It's not a panacea for what ails you. Don't defer living your life in favor of working more hours. If you believe you'll be more interesting, marketable, or loveable after you get your next promotion - you're wrong. You'll stay in a holding pattern without any satisfaction. You'll become restless again and chase something new and postpone your life again. Maybe next time no one will be waiting for you.

Consider appreciating yourself and your life right now. Is it a stretch? Think of yourself as "under construction" and accept yourself "as is." You won't stay that way forever. Commit to adventure and cultivating interests, take extension classes or workshops, participate in recreational activities, and relationships. If you can't - punish yourself with pleasure and push to do something light, exciting, or fun. You'll get used to it and life will become more robust and easier. It'll be easier to be with yourself.

To change it be honest with yourself and shift your priorities about who and what comes first. Lower your expectations about "them" and what "they'll" do for you. The mental adjustment changes the relationship you have with your job, the company and the boss. You are the only one who can make yourself happy, and create the inner satisfaction you yearn for; that's real success! (Want to know if you're too attached- take the quiz)